Nai's Story
When I was younger I always thought that when
I turned 25 years old I would start a family.
My sister and cousin both started their families
very young and I vowed that would not be me.
I was going to do things right - like get a job,
find a good husband, get a big house... then
comes the family. Well everything took place
but the children.
I spent so much time ignoring my body calling
for help, I wish I could go back and change things
but I know I can't. I found out that I had scared
tubes that where clubbed at the ends and were
blocked. When I heard this I felt dead inside.
All that I could think is that my husband isn't
going to want to be with me now and that I'm
cheating him out of his life. We both wanted
children and I knew he wanted to be with someone
that could give him a child.
Before I found out that my tubes were blocked,
we had tried for over a year and someone from
my job told me about her fertility doctor. The
fertility specialist did a laparoscopy and
he said that he removed the adhesions and that
my tubes where closed and damaged and I need
to have IVF done to conceive. I thought ok when
can I do it? I didn't know what IVF was. I just
wanted a baby so when I found out how much it
can cost I was disheartened since I couldn't
afford the procedure.
My friend told me that she had the same thing.
I was shocked and I didn't believe it because
she has three kids. So I asked her what she did
and she got a second opinion (since all of the
doctors are different). The second doctor she
saw had another course of treatment for her.
I took her one year to conceive her first child,
six months for the second child and two years
for her third child. She said you have to have
a doctor that really care about you.
So I went to see her doctor and gave him my
past surgery pictures and info and he looked
at me and said "who the heck told me that
this isn't repairable?" I was shocked from
his reaction and felt like this is the doctor
for me. He told me he can fix my problem with
another laparoscopy. I remember being put under
sedation for the procedure and he was telling
me that I'm not going wake up unless my problem
was fixed.
When I woke up he had this sad look on his face
and I wanted to just cry because I believed him
when he said he was going to help me. He looked
at me and said well your tubes are opened but
it might take you a while to conceive. Well it
didn't...I'm now four months pregnant with a
healthy baby. I just want to say that some treatments
are good for infertility they are not for everyone.
A second opinion helped instead of me hiding
from my problem. Good luck to everyone.
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